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Surrounded by Psychopaths

Thomas Erikson

Psixologiya #psixologiya#shaxsiy rivojlanish#manipulyatsiya#xulq-atvor#o'zini himoya qilish

Sizni birinchi uchrashuvdayoq osmonga ko'tarib maqtagan begona odam haqiqiy hismi yoki xavfli niyatmi? Tomas Erikson Psixopatlar qurshovida kitobida DISC tili orqali odamlar xulq-atvorini tushuntiradi va sizni manipulyatsiya qilmoqchi bo'lganlarni tanib olish yo'llarini ko'rsatadi. Odamlarni tushunishga qiziqqanlar uchun qiziqarli o'qish.

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Psychopaths hiding in plain sight

Bu bo'lim bitta qiziq tasavvur bilan boshlanadi. Tasavvur qil: juda chiroyli odam qarshingga o'tirib, "Sen men ko'rgan eng zo'r odamsan!" deydi. Faqat sani so'raydi, o'zi haqida gapirmaydi. Sanga umr bo'yi eshitmoqchi bo'lgan gaplaringni aytadi. Muallif so'ravotti: rostdan ham bunga uchmaysanmi? Bunaqa odam aslida boshqa narsani xohlashi mumkin. Masalan, puling yoki tanangni. Uning savollari bitta maqsadga xizmat qiladi: sen haqingda iloji boricha ko'p narsa bilib olish.

Muallif avvalgi kitobi "Surrounded by Idiots"ni eslatvotti. U kitob DISC tili haqida edi. DISC bu odamlarning muloqoti va xulq-atvoridagi farqlarni tasvirlaydigan usul. Unda to'rtta rang bor: Qizil (hukmronlik), Sariq (ta'sir), Yashil (barqarorlik), Ko'k (moslashuvchanlik, qoidaga bo'ysunish). Bu usul odam haqidagi jumboqning taxminan 80 foizini ochib beradi. Qolganiga yosh, jins, madaniyat, tajriba kabi narsala ta'sir qiladi. Odatda bitta odamda ikkita rang ustun bo'ladi.

Keyin muallif g'alati voqeani aytib beradi. Ma'ruzadan keyin bir yigit kelib, o'zini hech bir rangda tanimaganini, o'zini "beshinchi rang" deb o'ylashini aytdi. Bu bilimdan qanday "foydalanib qolish"ni so'radi. Keyin o'n daqiqacha muallifga tikilib turdi. Odamlarga soxta, niqobdek kulib qo'yardi.

Xullas, muallif xulosa qilvotti: DISC hammaga ham to'g'ri kelmaydi. Ba'zi odamlarning o'z shaxsiyati yo'q. Ular qarshisidagi odamni ko'zgudek takrorlaydi, xuddi xameleondek. Maqsadi doim bitta: o'zi xohlagan narsaga erishish. Muallif ularni "rangsiz" deydi va odam qiyofasidagi yirtqichla deb ataydi. Ular atrofga tartibsizlik sochadi, qurbonla esa ko'pincha aybdor kimligini bilmay qoladi.

Asosiy tushunchalar

DISC tili
Odamlarning xulq-atvorini to'rtta rangga bo'lib tushuntiradigan usul. William Moulton Marston nazariyasiga asoslangan. Masalan, ishxonadagi hamkasblaringni tushunishga yordam beradi.
To'rtta rang
Qizil – hukmronlik (dominance), Sariq – ta'sir (influence), Yashil – barqarorlik (stability), Ko'k – qoidaga bo'ysunish (compliance). Odatda odamda ikkita rang ustun bo'ladi.
Jumboqning 80 foizi
DISC odamni to'liq tasvirlamaydi, taxminan 80 foizini ochadi. Qolganini yosh, jins, madaniyat, aql, qiziqishla, tajriba, oiladagi nechanchi farzandligi kabi narsala belgilaydi.
Rangsiz odam (xameleon)
O'z shaxsiyati yo'q, qarshisidagi odamni ko'zgudek takrorlaydigan odam. Bozordagi firibgardek: sen nima istasang, shuni gapiradi, lekin maqsadi faqat o'z foydasi.
Manipulyatsiya
Odamni aldab, o'zingga kere narsani qildirish. Bunaqa odamla sening o'z xulq-atvoringni senga qarshi ishlatadi.

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Mundarija

Introduction4 dars
  1. Psychopaths hiding in plain sight
  2. Psychopaths living among us
  3. Science behind the four colors
  4. Hitler and the psychopath question
1. What actually is a psychopath?2 dars
  1. Defining the term psychopath
  2. Irresponsibility and early behavioral problems
2. Protecting yourself: a basic defense against psychopaths2 dars
  1. Self-awareness as basic protection
  2. Perfectionism and Blue behavior
3. Who are the psychopaths?2 dars
  1. Emotions drive human decisions
  2. Partners who drain you
4. Surrounded by idiots? How to get rid of them7 dars
  1. Red behavior: fast and task-oriented
  2. Red strengths: multitasking and focus
  3. Yellow behavior: warm and talkative
  4. Connecting with Yellow people
  5. Green behavior: calm and stable
  6. Blue behavior: calm and factual
  7. Working with Blue people
5. Manipulation is everywhere2 dars
  1. What manipulation really means
  2. Conscience and the line of manipulation
6. What manipulation looks like4 dars
  1. Influence used for good or harm
  2. Red and Yellow persuasion tactics
  3. Pressure points with Yellow partners
  4. Handling a manipulative husband
7. The dominant Red psychopath1 dars
  1. Types of hidden agendas
8. The charming Yellow psychopath1 dars
  1. Yellow traits resembling psychopathy
9. The passive Green psychopath1 dars
  1. Can Greens be psychopaths?
10. The meticulous Blue psychopath1 dars
  1. Why Blues are rarely psychopaths
11. How a psychopath manipulates a Red person2 dars
  1. Exploiting a Red's blind spots
  2. Psychopaths reading what people need
12. How a psychopath manipulates a Yellow person2 dars
  1. Yellow weakness: refusing negativity
  2. Yellow people who don't listen
13. How a psychopath manipulates a Green person2 dars
  1. Green fear of conflict
  2. Keeping Greens anxious and quiet
14. How a psychopath manipulates a Blue person2 dars
  1. Blues who know everything
  2. Pawns and credibility attacks
15. Common manipulation techniques8 dars
  1. Approval addiction and control cycles
  2. Silent treatment and emotional rollercoaster
  3. Reinforcement cycles in relationships
  4. Pressure on the home front
  5. Pushing emotional sensitive points
  6. Triangle drama technique
  7. How Greens react differently
  8. Involving others to discredit you
16. Everyday manipulation and how to handle it4 dars
  1. Manipulation versus psychopathy
  2. Manipulators questioning your reality
  3. Protecting your own well-being
  4. Setting boundaries with calm statements
17. What if nothing works?2 dars
  1. Why psychopaths cannot be cured
  2. Dealing with persistent manipulative contact
Postscript: Some words to help you on your way1 dars
  1. Final words to readers
Resources1 dars
  1. Recommended books and sources
Index1 dars
  1. Index of key terms
About the author1 dars
  1. About Thomas Erikson
Contents1 dars
  1. Book contents overview
Copyright1 dars
  1. Copyright and health disclaimer

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